Essential Oils for Emotional Well Being

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Essential oils have incredible therapeutic benefits, when used properly, they can change your mood almost immediately.  Here are the best essential oils for emotional well being.  Check out my post on essential oils every woman needs here and my spring cleaning with essential oils here.

 

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Essential Oils for Emotional Well Being

What are Essential Oils

Essential Oils are powerful healing agents coming from the leaves, roots, flowers, and bark of plants.  These oils offer you a natural way to promote wellness and prevent and treat ailments.*  Pure essential oils (which you should be using) are highly concentrated compounds which means you only need very little to do the job.

 

How do Essential Oils Affect Well Being

Have you ever smelled something and immediately felt more relaxed?  That’s essential oils, they work with the limbic system in your brain to bring feelings of happiness, relaxation, alertness, sleepiness, etc.  Science has proven that emotional well being has an effect on physical well being.  This article by Harvard’s school of public health speaks of a study that showed a more positive outlook reduces the risk of diseases such as heart disease.  This article from the Chopra Center talks about how when our emotional state is in balance our physical health will benefit.

 

 

Essential Oils for Emotional Well Being

 

With that being said, here are the oils I feel are best for emotional well being.  They are listed by property.  Click here to receive the PDF with all the information below and more, including profiles for 10 different oils with recipes for each.

Antidepressants

  • Basil (not be used during pregnancy or on children under 12)
  • Bergamot (photosensitive)
  • Clary Sage (not be used by pregnant women)
  • Frankincense
  • Geranium
  • Grapefruit (photosensitive)
  • Lavender
  • Lemon(photsensitive)
  • Patchouli
  • Sandalwood
  • Orange (photosensitive)
  • Ylang Ylang

 

Photosensitive means do not wear the oils anywhere direct sunlight is going to hit

 

Calming

 

  • Bergamot (photosensitive)
  • Birch (do not use if allergic to aspirin, pregnant, or have epilepsy)
  • Black Pepper
  • Clary Sage (avoid use during pregnancy)
  • Frankincense
  • Geranium
  • Jasmine
  • Juniper
  • Lavender
  • Patchouli
  • Roman Chamomile
  • Sandalwood
  • Vetiver
  • Tangerine(photosensitive)

 

Energizing

 

  • Basil (not to be used while pregnant or on children under 12)
  • Grapefruit (photosensitive.)
  • Lemongrass
  • Peppermint(not to be used on children)
  • Rosemary (not to be used on children)
  • White Fir (not to be used on children)

 

Sedatives

  • Bergamot (photosensitive)
  • Cedarwood
  • Clary Sage (not to be used during pregnancy)
  • Cypress
  • Frankincense
  • Geranium
  • Lavender
  • Marjoram
  • Roman Chamomile
  • Sandalwood
  • Vetiver
  • Ylang Ylang

 

Uplifting

 

  • Bergamot (photosensitive)
  • Cedarwood
  • Clary Sage
  • Cypress
  • Grapefruit (photosensitive)
  • Lemon (photosensitive)
  • Lime (photosensitive)
  • Sandalwood
  • Tangerine (photosensitive)
  • Orange (photosensitive)
  • Ylang Ylang

 

Essential Oil for Emotional Well Being –In Conclusion

Although some of the oils have opposing benefits (Bergamot is listed as an antidepressant, calming, sedative, and uplifting) the great thing about essential oils is they can read your body.  They figure out where you can use a boost and support you.  Benefits of oils also greatly improve when used in a synergy (or blend) which just means more than one oil blended with another.  These blends have exceptional therapeutic properties.  Blending essential oils is an art, it take practice and knowledge but anyone can learn to make amazing blends to use for emotional well being.  Click the picture below or here to get the PDF which includes all of the above information plus 10 oil profiles with recipes to try for each.

 

Essential Oils for Emotional Well Being

 

*These claims are not FDA approved.  Please do not use anything on this site in place of medical treatment.  Although, I have full faith in everything I post here and have tried every recipe with success does not mean they will work for everyone. 

 

Essential Oils for Emotional Well Being

Blogger Recognition Award

Blogger Recognition Award

 

I am so incredibly honored to have been recognized by these amazing bloggers.  These are women I respect immensely so it is even more exciting to have been nominated for the Blogger Recognition Award by them.   Having only been blogging for a short period of time and having much more to learn, but this shows that I’m doing something right LOL.

 

Here are the rules to the Blogger Recognition Award:

1.) Thank the blogger(s) who nominated you and add their links

2.)  Write a post to show off your fancy award

3.)  Share story of how your blog was started

4.)  Share 2 pieces of advice for new bloggers

5.)  Nominate other bloggers

6.)  Comment on their blog to let them know you nominated them

 

3 Lovely Ladies Nominated Me

 

So, 3 amazing lady bloggers nominated me (YAHHH)

Elizabeth from Betty’s Battleground

Alison from The Nut Factory

and

Heather from Heather LeGuilloux

 

My Blogging Story

 

Here’s my story (sad but true), I started this blog to get my feelings out about my sister ending her life.  To say my sister was my best friend would be an understatement, she was part of me, etched on my soul, as my other half.  Seriously, we were creepy, we could speak by telepathy….no not really LOL but we could make each other laugh, while not even saying a word.  It was like we read each others’ minds.

When my sister killed herself, it was like a piece of me died.  Thank God I had such a strong support system including my fiancée and my best friend or things could have turned out very differently for me.  Of course I had my family also, but they were suffering in their own personal hells, right along with me.

After a couple of months, I knew if I didn’t do something I would lose my mind slowly.  I turned to something my sister loved, holistic health.  I learned everything I could about essential oils, meditation, yoga but I really loved essential oils.  I started helping friends and family with their ailments and they would always call me an hour later and say “Holy shit, those snake oils really work!!!”  LOL

I’ve never considered myself much of a writer but one day I read a blog post by Lena Gott from What Mommy Does and I decided to learn more about blogging.  I took Lena’s blogging email course and after emailing her my story, and her saying definitely do it, I decided to start my blog.  The rest is history…… like Nicole Reed said, “Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us.”

 

My WHY

 

My “WHY” has evolved the last couple of months.  It seemed like every time I turned my computer on, there was another story about a young child killing themselves.   My goal now is to go to schools and ask for a formal suicide prevention program be put in place.  If I have to go to every school in the county, state, and country, that’s what I will do to try to stop this heartbreaking epidemic.  Also, I want to start empowering parents with the knowledge they need to help their kids who may be suffering.  Mental health has such a stigma around it.  If we can start this conversation, youth suicide could be preventable, but it takes every one to make that possible.  Schools, communities, parents, friends, the more we talk about it opening, the better it will get.

 

2 Tips for New Bloggers

 

Don’t give up!!!  When you start blogging, you think it’s just going to be writing until you purge the demons….well it’s not.  It takes a lot of hard work and dedication.

If you’re not tech savvy, you won’t be where you need to be in the beginning BUT play around on your site.  Figure out your theme, figure out how to make Pinterest pins in Canva.  Keep trying to do something anything, I still have no idea what I’m doing LOL

 

Blogger Recognition Award

 

My Nominations

 

My girl Kristie at theofficialceomom

Ashley at You me and PTSD

Maria at imommy.co

Azalea at disorderedliving

Kristin at fourprincessesandthecheese

Laura at bylauraiancu

Jen at womenwinningonline

 

So, there’s my nominations, it feels good to be nominated for something.  It really validates all your efforts.  A lot of other ladies have helped me along the way but I literally am drawing a blank.

 

Who is your favorite blogger????  Let me know in the comments

 

Have a great weekend

 

 

 

How to Talk to Kids About Mental Health Issues (at any age)

 

How to Talk to Kids About Mental Health Issues

 

As parents, we need to talk to our kids about “scary issues.”  The stuff nightmares are made of.  Stranger danger, drugs, drinking, smoking, bullying, mental health issues, and suicide prevention/awareness.  All parents want to believe nothing bad will ever happen to their child, and then the impossible happens.  Everyday, kids are kidnapped, overdose, start smoking, trip the kid who’s different from them.  Youth suicide has become an epidemic in this country.  Everyday a kid attempts or completes suicide.  Here is the definitive guide on how to talk to kids about mental health issues (at any age.)

 

How to Talk to Kids about Mental Health Issues

 

Safety First

You may be thinking, children who are too young won’t be able to grasp the topic of mental health and suicide.  They aren’t too young too grasp the concept of wearing a helmet, don’t talk to strangers, or look both ways before crossing the street, etc.  Children are never “too young” to learn about any topic (with a few exceptions.)  I’ll give you age specific ways to speak to your kids about mental health issues and suicide.

 

How to Talk to Kids About Mental Health Issues (Grades K-2)

For kids under the 2nd grade, you should stick to the basics, but definitely introduce the topic of mental health.

1. Mental Health

A mental illness is similar to a physical illness only you can’t see it.  Explain how the illness is inside the person’s brain.

2. Trusted Adults

This is a huge topic to discuss with your younger children.  Your child should have multiple trusted adults, at school and at home.  At school, their trusted adult could be their teacher, principal, school nurse, etc.  At home, their trusted adult could be an aunt or uncle, a neighbor, or coach.  Explain to your child they can talk to their trusted adult about anything.  At this age, kids still feel more comfortable talking to their own parents but it is still a good idea to introduce the concept to younger children.

3.  Emotional Intelligence

A good way to explain this concept to your kids is to compare it to traditional intelligence.  As they are learning their ABCs and adding, they should also be learning to express their emotions in a positive way.  We all feel angry, frustrated, and nervous sometimes.  Let your child know, all their emotions are valid, but it’s unacceptable to throw things when we’re frustrated.  It’s easier for every one involved, if we talk about our emotions in a positive way, even if they are negative emotions.  We, as parents, lose our temper when we’re frustrated.  When we do, we should apologize to our kids, no matter their age, and tell them, it’s not ok to lose it every time you feel frustrated.  *I know easier said than done, but everything take practice.

4.  Bullying

Let your kids know what bullying is.  Explain to them “Words Can Hurt,” and the impact of those words is some times tragic.  Kids usually don’t understand, laughing at a child who gets the answer wrong in class, can be extremely hurtful.  Tell your child that kids come in all shapes and colors and to treat every one they meet with respect and courtesy

 

How to Talk to Kids About Mental Health Issues (Grades 3-5)

It’s at this age that you can start introducing self harm (intentional injury such as cutting, pinching) and an explanation of suicide.

 

1.  Mental Illness

Explain that mental illness is not contagious, it can be hereditary but you can’t catch a mental illness from someone.  Be sure to stress to your child, if they are ever feeling sad or nervous for more than a week, tell you.  Or have them speak to their trusted adult.

2.  Trusted Adults

Reinforce the purpose of your child’s trusted adult.  Make sure your child has the contact information for their “out of school” trusted adult.  In my case, my two best friends, are my children’s trusted adults.  They know that they will contact either of them, if they need to talk.  My fiancé is also a trusted adult for my girls.  They talk to him all the time about things they think I will get “mad” about.

 

3.  Coping Skills

Discuss how to cope with loss, divorce, and other major stressors.  Tell your kids, it’s OK to talk about how they feel to you, other family members, friends, or their trusted adult.  Explain to them they are not to blame for the loss (such as divorce or separation.)  Talk about healthy coping strategies (talking and doing things with friends, journaling, mediation.)  And talk about unhealthy coping skills (eating too much, placing blame, isolating yourself.)

 

4.  Self-harm and Suicide

At this age, you should be able to explain what self-harming and suicide is.  Explain to your child what self-harm is, cutting, pinching, burning yourself or it could manifest as pulling your hair out.  Talk about why people would harm themselves (trouble at home or school, bullying, lack of confidence.)

Then explain what suicide is and the synonyms for suicide (killed themselves or ended their life.)  Talk about some of the reason why someone would want to attempt or complete suicide.  Explain to your child what to do if they having those kinds of thoughts.  Also, talk to your child about what to do if they know a friend or classmate is having these kind of feelings.  Always go straight to an adult if a friend or classmate says they are going to harm themselves.

 

5.  Personal Assets

Analyze your child’s personal assets, this could be, compassionate, confident, intelligent, well-spoken, like to read, basically anything your child could use to help them in life.  Then talk to your child about how they can use those assets in their everyday life.

It may sound complicated for a 5th grader but I promise it’s not, once they understand.  Here’s an example, an 11 year old girl is compassionate, kind, and understanding (assets) but not so much confident or outspoken.  In this situation we wouldn’t suggest for this girl to join the debate club.  Instead, we would steer her towards the welcoming committee that the school offers to new students.   Talk about how everyone has strengths and weaknesses.  It’s when we realize what our strengths are and then use them to our advantage, we really shine.

 

How to Talk to Kids about mental health issues

 

How to Talk to Kids About Mental Health Issues (Grades 6-8)

Kids at this age can get the full explanation on mental health issues.

 

1. Mental Illness

Explain the numerous different mental illnesses (depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, etc.)   Let them know what the warning signs of mental illness are (behavior & personality changes, sleep problems, emotional outbursts, suicidal thoughts.)  Tell them, it is OK to ask for help, it does not make you weak in any way.  It’s at this age when kids won’t want to talk to their parents about their issues.  This is a huge reason why getting your child a trusted adult early on in life is imperative.  This is when you’re going to rely on your trusted adult to be there for your child any time day or night.

 

2. Bullying

The fact is, bullying peaks in middle school, with 25% of students, claiming they were bullied at some point.  Talk to your child about the strong correlation between bullying and mental health issues and suicide.  Explain to your child, one-third of the time, the victim never even tell an adult about what’s happening to them.  It is for this reason that kids cannot be bystanders.  If they see some form of bullying happening, it is their responsibility to tell someone, their trusted adult at school or home, a teacher, anyone.  Children who have been bullied report a variety of social and emotional problems-anxiety and insecurity can lead to depression and suicidal ideation.

 

3.  Personal Assets & Protective Factors

Explain how personal assets and protective factors promote and support healthy emotional development.  Personal Assets are an individuals strengths and weaknesses (such as confidence, compassionate, kindness, well-spoken, positive peer relationships.)  Protective Factors are the skills and resources a child has that could help deal with stressful situations (parental involvement, positive interactions at school, trusted adult in the school system.)

Caring family relationships make it less likely a child will turn to an unhealthy coping method such as substance abuse.  It increases the chances of your child coming to you for help in times of trouble.  Periodically go over your child’s strengths and weaknesses with them as they will change with time.

4.  Coping Skills

Go more in depth with your middle schooler about healthy and unhealthy coping skills.  Appropriate coping skills for this age group would be having a conversation with your family or trusted adult, journaling, doing something they enjoy such as art or writing, supportive friends, exercising.  Some inappropriate coping skills would be overeating, wanting to be alone, anger and rage, substance abuse, and thoughts of death or suicide.

 

5.  Myths about Suicide

There are tons of myths about suicide, I’m going to go over a few but know that there are hundreds that I could tell you.

Myth #1-If adults talk to young people about suicide, it will put the idea in their heads.  This is the furthest thing from the truth.  If anything, it would help kids to realize that we, as adults, understand what they are feeling.  When we validate their feelings and give them a chance to ask questions about mental illness, we will be able to see if they need help.

Myth #2-Most young people who complete suicide showed no warning signs.  Actually, there were probably numerous warning signs, but if you aren’t educated on what to look for, you wouldn’t know them.  It is for this reason that stronger suicide prevention programs should be in communities and schools.

Myth #3-the biggest of them all-there is no correlation between bullying and suicide.  It’s quite obvious that there is a very strong correlation between bullying and suicide.   It may not be the direct cause of the suicide but bullying definitely harms children way more deeply than we know.  If you suspect you’re child is being bullied, call the school, ask for their help.  Inform the school that your child’s moods have changed drastically and you would like someone to keep an eye on them at school.

 

6.  Where to Go For Help

Mental Health America has great screening tools that a young person or the parent of a young person can take.  The results will tell you what they suggest to do next.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255

Also, talk to your kids about going to an adult, at school, if they hear any friend or classmate talking about attempting suicide.  The school should know what to do in the situation.

 

 

Conclusion

Although, it seems like talking about suicide and mental illness, to kids, is macabre, it is very necessary.  The fact is we talk about scary stuff to our kids all the time.  We talk about not talking to strangers, drugs and addiction, smoking, and bullying.  Every day a new threat pops up that petrifies us, as parents, cyberbullying and online predators.  Talking to your kids about mental health issues and suicide will not only help them, it may help to save another kids life.

 

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