Suicide Prevention-How I Went From Devastated to Driven Part 2

Suicide Prevention



I have come up with my Part 2 to From Devastated to Driven Part 1.  Suicide prevention should be discussed in schools, period.  There are pros and cons to everything; medicines, books, movies, video games, standardized tests.  To take the stance, talking about suicide could lead to suicide, is not an answer anymore.  We have to weigh the benefits against the drawbacks of a prevention program.


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Why I Want Suicide Prevention Spoken About in School

My sister’s death has ignited something in me, a drive like I’ve never seen.   After reading numerous article on youth suicide, I’ve decided to act.  I’m currently in the research phase.

I really don’t know when my attention turned to the kids attempting and completely suicide.  It seemed like every time I opened my internet browser, a story about a child’s suicide came up.

The fact of the matter is kids’ young minds will soak up any information we’re giving them.  I know, you’re thinking, my kid doesn’t listen or remember anything but you’re wrong.  Kids know, realize, listen, and retain a lot more than we think.   I have big ideas on how to help kids retrain their brains, to believe in themselves, to love themselves, to forgive themselves for their perceived shortcomings or mistakes, they feel they’ve made.



Through my constant reading, I have been changed by the self help industry. I am going to write my own suicide prevention program with schools around America, and possibly the world


My Sister

My sister’s suicide in 2015 obviously rocked the foundation my life sits on.  Losing my best friend has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with.  I spent many days and nights in bed, hysterical, screaming “WHY.”  Almost 2 years later, I still do that on some days.

Other days, I thank her for changing my life.  She literally altered the framework of my life.  I’ve never been more ready for change-not only to change myself but to work to change so many who feel broken.


Evolution of Grief

You see, when you’re grieving, you don’t pay attention to anything.  You stay in your pajamas all day (which I usually do anyway), you cry so much you’re eyes won’t open, and then one day you get up.  You’re pissed and ready to throat punch someone, anyone, to take the pain away.  Then you realize, you can use that anger for something good and that’s what I’m going to do…….


Suicide Prevention

My New Plan

I’ve spoken to 10 different kids (ages 9-17), who go to ten different schools, and not 1 of those schools offer a formal suicide prevention program.  Or if they do, the student don’t know about them. I’ll have an extensive post about this coming up next week  As of now, I have a lot of work to do.  I’ve found numerous suicide prevention programs that I could potentially pitch to my school system.  To be honest, I don’t think any of them are promising.




I have found new enlightment from many sources. I wil accomplsh my dreams


…..But What I Really Want To Do

I really want to become a motivational speaker for kids, teaching them not only suicide prevention but motivation and self esteem exercises.  Sounds crazy, right?

I don’t think so.

I want to be the Gabby Bernstein of the 7th grade.  Or the Tony Robbins of the 12th grade.  I have so many ideas spinning around my head.  I want to write and create my OWN suicide prevention program!!!

Sounds nuts, but even a blind squirrel finds a nut every now and again.

I sincerely believe I can accomplish this goal.  I believe in my heart that I can change the way these kids feel about themselves.




My sister's suicide changed my life. I now want nothing more than to promote suicide prevention programs in schools

Life Coaching

I want to pursue a career in life coaching.  I know many of the kids I talked with, feel uncomfortable talking to their parents about certain issues.  In some cases, the parents are the problem, in the children’s opinion.

I want to help these families.  I want to be the voice on the other end of the line, that kids feel comfortable talking to.

Then I want to speak to kids about self-esteem, confidence, changing their mindset, realizing their dreams.

I want to help kids know their worth, know they are original and so very relevant to this life.


Write a Book

Also, I want to write a book.  THE BOOK on how to prevent suicide in children.

THE BOOK parents turn to when in need.  Sort of like Dr. Spock’s book back in the day.

I’ve never considered myself a writer.  I was always a math girl (still am) but something has shifted in me.  It’s like my soul flows through my fingers when I write.


I Don’t Know How Yet…..


Be the change you want to see in this world.  All I do, all day, is think about that quote.  Something has to be done, we have to say “NO MORE.”  We need to do something about the epidemic that has become youth suicide.

I don’t know how I’m going to accomplish all this stuff but I know I will.  As Marie Forleo says, “Everything is Figure Outtable!!!”


I Need Your Help


Now I have some questions for you, my loyal readers.  Does your child’s school have a formal suicide prevention program….not one they created after a tragedy happened-one that has been in place and being spoke about?  If so, can you tell me a little about it.

Also, can you please share this post, so other parents could tell me about any other programs they know about.  Thank you so much.




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25 thoughts on “Suicide Prevention-How I Went From Devastated to Driven Part 2”

  1. Connie, you have taken all of your anger and sadness and pain, and turned it into a positive motivational beacon of light. Teaching others to do that is a very noble cause and I am sure you will be successful. I love you with all my heart and your sister is so proud of you. Change the world!

  2. You are an inspiration Connie. I am sure you are destined to make great change in so many young people’s lives. Because of you a suicide could be prevented and I know that thought will be such a driving factor for you.

    I don’t have children but I know if I did I would be so grateful for someone like you that is willing to take the time to implement systems in our schools.

    So thank you, from a future mommy xx

    1. Thank you so much Sarah. I always say, even if I help just one person with this blog, then I would consider myself successful. Thank you again for your support Sarah!!!

  3. I feel like this is incredibly brave and awesome of you to want to reach out to the youth after what you’ve been through. This is a very important topic and has to be placed at the top of the list for our youth to understand. The path you are on is beautiful and many young people will become aware of stronger through your efforts to make a necessary change in our schools. Thanks

  4. I am so sorry for the loss of your sister. Losing my sister would completely devastate me. It is completely amazing that you are getting up and accomplishing something and trying to change and save so many lives. Your sister would be SO PROUD of what you are doing!

    1. Thank you Caitlin, I know Jessie would be proud of me, hell, I’m proud of me. I am definitely one that could withdraw into myself but I’m happy I didn’t. I will stand and fight for kids to have more information and more resources. Thank you for reading Caitlin. I appreciate it

  5. I have no doubt you’ll accomplish your goals. I’m sure everyone asks you this, but have you seen 13 Reasons on Netflix? Definitely a way to open up a discussion, but it might be really hard to watch. I had to skip some parts and I haven’t been affected by suicide like you have.

    1. I have watched it Kristen. As with anything, it has its pros and cons. It was very difficult to watch but I felt like it was necessary. Thank you for your comment, I sincerely appreciate it

  6. Such an inspiring post. I don’t have kids in school, but I will share this in hopes that others can read and share their experiences with you. Good luck in all of your endeavors.

  7. I am really sorry to hear about your sister. My cousin committed suicide so I can relate to some extent. It is great to see someone standing up to educate people about prevention. I am honestly terrified that someday it may happen to my son

    1. I’m so sorry about your cousin, that is awful. It is so important to teach kids to express their emotions and not to be shamed or made to feel “weird” because they feel this way. Always try to keep the lines of communication open between you and your son or find him a trusted adult who he feels comfortable talking to about serious issues. Thank you for your comment

  8. If you want or need any help with this, please please please let me know! I would love to help you in any way that I can! Sometimes I get the drive and motivation to do it and then the reality of what is sets in and I can’t find the way to do it. I do not think my children’s school does anything on suicide. Grant you, they are an elementary school but kids as young as 10 have been completing suicide so it is never too early. Hugs to you and best of luck on your goals!

    1. I think suicide education should start in elementary school, even if it’s just explaining what suicide is and emotional health. It’s just so sad what is happening to these kids. I want to help every kid realize that this is not the end, you can go on. Suicide is not the answer. Thank you so much for your comment Leila. I’ll let you know if I need any help

  9. It’s such a horrible things suicide and I no one really never knows what other people are thinking. I remember being depressed as a teen. My thoughts always as I not pretty enough, they don’t really want to be my friend, etc I worry about my daughter she’s 10 now. But as for the school. I don’t know. They never talk about it. The lady that lives up the road. Her daughter is in the same year as my daughter. She told me her child says she wants to die. The school knows and the teacher pays special attention to her and gives this girl allot of support. I believe schools and parents need to act together. So sorry for your sister Connie. I’m definitely going to follow you on FB and share this post.

    1. Thank you Jacinta. I agree, parents and the school system need to work together to help that young girl. It’s just so tragic what is happening. It breaks my heart

  10. I am sorry for the loss of your sister. I’m sure she is looking down very proud of you. This is a very encouraging post and I admire your strength for wanting to start doing so much about youth suicide prevention. I don’t have kids in school yet so I’m not sure if there is a suicide prevention program established. I wish you all the best in your efforts to raise awareness for a much needed program.

    1. Thank you Marissa, I am sure she is proud of me. I miss her so much. I wish she was here with me but if I can save one person with this site, than I will consider myself successful. Thank you again

  11. I definitely understand how you feel. it is so good that you are talking about your grief, I still cannot do that, and you are trying to help other people. You have a beautiful soul <3

  12. My first time to deal with suicide was the friend of my son when they were in the 8th grade. Then another a few years later. I have to say trying to help your child deal with it was so different and painful than another death. First, it was a child. It forever changed how he deals with death.

    1. I agree with you, it’s very hard for a child to comprehend what is happening. That’s even more the reason to teach them about it in school. Thank you for your comment.

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