It’s Hard To Stay Positive During a Major Life Change
We all know that feeling-a pit in your stomach, a punch in the gut, or literal pain as you feel your heart breaking.
The feeling of utter overwhelm that comes with a break-up, the loss of someone important to you (whether by death or decision).
Despair, as you hear your boss say, “We have to let you go….”
Or any other major life change that makes you feel like your world is coming to an end. Although, it feels that way now, if you stay positive and believe the world works in mysterious ways, then you just might look at this time in your life as just the beginning.
Here are some ways to stay positive during a major life change.
Put on Music to Ease a Troubled Mind
Put on your favorite music and as Taylor Swift says, “Shake It Off.” I don’t mean some depressing song you listened to when you broke up with your 4th grade boyfriend either. I mean some hard core, bounce around, sweat it off music.
Listen to something that reminds you of a good time in your life. Music can take me back to some of the best times in my life, times of joy, and smiles, and laughter. Let it transport you to a positive place.
Exercise the Blues Away
Nothing helps clear your mind like working up a sweat. Don’t think, just go-run, walk, jump, skip, yoga-whatever it takes to clear your mind. Making, or accepting, a major life decision is hard, and one that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Take a walk and see if it helps give you some clarity on the situation.
A good walk in the woods with my dog is all it takes to clear out the overload and see things more clearly. I definitely feel more positive when I get back.
Read Self Help/Positivity Books-Watch Movies about Positivity
I have never believed in the “power of positive thinking,” until I watched I Am Not Your Guru on Netflix. I was amazed at how straight forward and honest Tony Robbins was. It really inspired me. Some other great books are The Universe Has Your Back by Gabby Bernstein (this lady is a powerhouse) and Unsinkable by Sonia Ricotti (I saw her free webinar and read her book Unsinkable, it’s life changing.) You feel like your life is falling apart and it might be. These books talk about bouncing back and getting up after you’ve fallen down.
In my case, after my sister died, I was angry, angry at the world, angry at the mental health care system in general. These books showed me, staying positive and trying to find the good in every situation, is the best thing to do.
Lean on Your Friends When You Need Them
Let your friends help, I know it’s hard to relinquish power over certain things your life. Friends are there to help you stay positive when you feel like your life is falling apart.
When my sister died, I called my best friend first, I didn’t even get 4 words out of my mouth before she said “What do you need?” I needed someone to take care of my girls. I had no idea how to tell them that their favorite person in the world just ended her own life. As I drove home that day, pretending everything was great, having Kelly was a gift from God. She was waiting at my doorstep as I pulled up and pretended that she was taking the girls for a wonderful staycation at her house (it was across the street so they were never too far away from me.) My 2 best friends took care of my girls for 4 days. I still lean on them when I need help and they’re always there for me.
Your friends can get you through the worst things in your life, believe me, I know the power of friendship. During a major life change, let them help. Don’t push them away, don’t try to do everything, they love you, and want what’s best for you.
Spend Time With Your Family Who Wants the Best For You
Family is forever. They are there for the good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s amazing how much your family can help you stay positive during a tumultuous time in your life. Talk to your family members, let them know how your feeling, I’m sure your scared or feeling lost. Family can rope you in when you’re starting to go off the rails.
For me, spending time with my girls and, our pal, Tank (our dog) can only bring positive thoughts to mind. Try to find the most positive family member you have and let them know what is happening. They will probably give you some great advice and tell you that there is always a light at the end of tunnel. The light gets brighter as you get more in a positive mindset.
Start Each Day with a Grateful Heart To Stay Positive
Every day, wake up thankful for what you have. It might not be much, but you’re still breathing, and that’s all you need to be doing to practice positivity. Be thankful for the strength to realize what is best for you, and every one involved.
I’ve made a printable gratitude journal page that is undated, so you can print out as many as you want. Date it, write down what you’re thankful for, and read it back to yourself. Even when life gets hard, staying positive and looking at what you have, instead of what you don’t have, keeps your spirits up. At the end of this post, you can receive a FREE Gratitude Journal Printable, when you subscribe to my newsletter.
And Then……….Have Yourself a Good Cry
And then there are those times, you just want to curl up in a ball on your bed and cry. Cry for what was and what could have been. Bawl your eyes out for thinking you were not good enough or smart enough. Weep for the kids in the situation who are going to be devastated. DO IT!!!
Let the river of tears flow, allow yourself to be sad be that brief moment….and then REMEMBER The past is history and the future isn’t written yet. Leave the past behind you. Forgive yourself. Forgive the people who have hurt you. This too shall pass and 5 years from now, you’ll look back on this time in your life as a learning experience. A place you WERE, not a place you ARE. Believe things will get better, and they will, maybe not tomorrow or next week, but things will get better. Be thankful for what you have. Stay positive and believe all things happen for a reason.
Have you recently had a major life change? How did you stay positive during a difficult time in your life?
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