Suicide Prevention-How I Went From Devastated to Driven Part 2

 

 

I have come up with my Part 2 to From Devastated to Driven Part 1.  Suicide prevention should be discussed in schools, period.  There are pros and cons to everything; medicines, books, movies, video games, standardized tests.  To take the stance, talking about suicide could lead to suicide, is not an answer anymore.  We have to weigh the benefits against the drawbacks of a prevention program.

 

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Why I Want Suicide Prevention Spoken About in School

My sister’s death has ignited something in me, a drive like I’ve never seen.   After reading numerous article on youth suicide, I’ve decided to act.  I’m currently in the research phase.

I really don’t know when my attention turned to the kids attempting and completely suicide.  It seemed like every time I opened my internet browser, a story about a child’s suicide came up.

The fact of the matter is kids’ young minds will soak up any information we’re giving them.  I know, you’re thinking, my kid doesn’t listen or remember anything but you’re wrong.  Kids know, realize, listen, and retain a lot more than we think.   I have big ideas on how to help kids retrain their brains, to believe in themselves, to love themselves, to forgive themselves for their perceived shortcomings or mistakes, they feel they’ve made.

 

 

Through my constant reading, I have been changed by the self help industry. I am going to write my own suicide prevention program with schools around America, and possibly the world

 

My Sister

My sister’s suicide in 2015 obviously rocked the foundation my life sits on.  Losing my best friend has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with.  I spent many days and nights in bed, hysterical, screaming “WHY.”  Almost 2 years later, I still do that on some days.

Other days, I thank her for changing my life.  She literally altered the framework of my life.  I’ve never been more ready for change-not only to change myself but to work to change so many who feel broken.

 

Evolution of Grief

You see, when you’re grieving, you don’t pay attention to anything.  You stay in your pajamas all day (which I usually do anyway), you cry so much you’re eyes won’t open, and then one day you get up.  You’re pissed and ready to throat punch someone, anyone, to take the pain away.  Then you realize, you can use that anger for something good and that’s what I’m going to do…….

 

Suicide Prevention

My New Plan

I’ve spoken to 10 different kids (ages 9-17), who go to ten different schools, and not 1 of those schools offer a formal suicide prevention program.  Or if they do, the student don’t know about them. I’ll have an extensive post about this coming up next week  As of now, I have a lot of work to do.  I’ve found numerous suicide prevention programs that I could potentially pitch to my school system.  To be honest, I don’t think any of them are promising.

 

 

 

I have found new enlightment from many sources. I wil accomplsh my dreams

 

…..But What I Really Want To Do

I really want to become a motivational speaker for kids, teaching them not only suicide prevention but motivation and self esteem exercises.  Sounds crazy, right?

I don’t think so.

I want to be the Gabby Bernstein of the 7th grade.  Or the Tony Robbins of the 12th grade.  I have so many ideas spinning around my head.  I want to write and create my OWN suicide prevention program!!!

Sounds nuts, but even a blind squirrel finds a nut every now and again.

I sincerely believe I can accomplish this goal.  I believe in my heart that I can change the way these kids feel about themselves.

 

 

 

My sister's suicide changed my life. I now want nothing more than to promote suicide prevention programs in schools

Life Coaching

I want to pursue a career in life coaching.  I know many of the kids I talked with, feel uncomfortable talking to their parents about certain issues.  In some cases, the parents are the problem, in the children’s opinion.

I want to help these families.  I want to be the voice on the other end of the line, that kids feel comfortable talking to.

Then I want to speak to kids about self-esteem, confidence, changing their mindset, realizing their dreams.

I want to help kids know their worth, know they are original and so very relevant to this life.

 

Write a Book

Also, I want to write a book.  THE BOOK on how to prevent suicide in children.

THE BOOK parents turn to when in need.  Sort of like Dr. Spock’s book back in the day.

I’ve never considered myself a writer.  I was always a math girl (still am) but something has shifted in me.  It’s like my soul flows through my fingers when I write.

 

I Don’t Know How Yet…..

 

Be the change you want to see in this world.  All I do, all day, is think about that quote.  Something has to be done, we have to say “NO MORE.”  We need to do something about the epidemic that has become youth suicide.

I don’t know how I’m going to accomplish all this stuff but I know I will.  As Marie Forleo says, “Everything is Figure Outtable!!!”

 

I Need Your Help

 

Now I have some questions for you, my loyal readers.  Does your child’s school have a formal suicide prevention program….not one they created after a tragedy happened-one that has been in place and being spoke about?  If so, can you tell me a little about it.

Also, can you please share this post, so other parents could tell me about any other programs they know about.  Thank you so much.

 

 

 

How to Stay Positive During a Major Life Change

It’s Hard To Stay Positive During a Major Life Change

We all know that feeling-a pit in your stomach, a punch in the gut, or literal pain as you feel your heart breaking.

The feeling of utter overwhelm that comes with a break-up, the loss of someone important to you (whether by death or decision).

Despair, as you hear your boss say, “We have to let you go….”

Or any other major life change that makes you feel like your world is coming to an end.  Although, it feels that way now, if you stay positive and believe the world works in mysterious ways, then you just might look at this time in your life as just the beginning.

Here are some ways to stay positive during a major life change.

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Put on Music to Ease a Troubled Mind

Put on your favorite music and as Taylor Swift says, “Shake It Off.”  I don’t mean some depressing song you listened to when you broke up with your 4th grade boyfriend either.  I mean some hard core, bounce around, sweat it off music.

Listen to something that reminds you of a good time in your life.  Music can take me back to some of the best times in my life, times of joy, and smiles, and laughter.  Let it transport you to a positive place.

Exercise the Blues Away

Nothing helps clear your mind like working up a sweat.  Don’t think, just go-run, walk, jump, skip, yoga-whatever it takes to clear your mind.  Making, or accepting, a major life decision is hard, and one that shouldn’t be taken lightly.  Take a walk and see if it helps give you some clarity on the situation.

A good walk in the woods with my dog is all it takes to clear out the overload and see things more clearly.  I definitely feel more positive when I get back.

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Read Self Help/Positivity Books-Watch Movies about Positivity

I have never believed in the “power of positive thinking,” until I watched I Am Not Your Guru on Netflix.  I was amazed at how straight forward and honest Tony Robbins was.  It really inspired me.  Some other great books are The Universe Has Your Back by Gabby Bernstein (this lady is a powerhouse) and Unsinkable by Sonia Ricotti (I saw her free webinar and read her book Unsinkable, it’s life changing.)  You feel like your life is falling apart and it might be.  These books talk about bouncing back and getting up after you’ve fallen down.

In my case, after my sister died, I was angry, angry at the world, angry at the mental health care system in general.  These books showed me, staying positive and trying to find the good in every situation, is the best thing to do.

 

 

Lean on Your Friends When You Need Them

Let your friends help, I know it’s hard to relinquish power over certain things your life.  Friends are there to help you stay positive when you feel like your life is falling apart.

When my sister died, I called my best friend first, I didn’t even get 4 words out of my mouth before she said “What do you need?”  I needed someone to take care of my girls.  I had no idea how to tell them that their favorite person in the world just ended her own life.  As I drove home that day, pretending everything was great, having Kelly was a gift from God.  She was waiting at my doorstep as I pulled up and pretended that she was taking the girls for a wonderful staycation at her house (it was across the street so they were never too far away from me.)  My 2 best friends took care of my girls for 4 days.  I still lean on them when I need help and they’re always there for me.

Your friends can get you through the worst things in your life, believe me, I know the power of friendship.  During a major life change, let them help.  Don’t push them away, don’t try to do everything, they love you, and want what’s best for you.

 

Spend Time With Your Family Who Wants the Best For You

Family is forever.  They are there for the good, the bad, and the ugly.  It’s amazing how much your family can help you stay positive during a tumultuous time in your life.   Talk to your family members, let them know how your feeling, I’m sure your scared or feeling lost.  Family can rope you in when you’re starting to go off the rails.

For me, spending time with my girls and, our pal, Tank (our dog) can only bring positive thoughts to mind.   Try to find the most positive family member you have and let them know what is happening.  They will probably give you some great advice and tell you that there is always a light at the end of tunnel.  The light gets brighter as you get more in a positive mindset.

 

Start Each Day with a Grateful Heart To Stay Positive

Every day, wake up thankful for what you have.  It might not be much, but you’re still breathing, and that’s all you need to be doing to practice positivity.  Be thankful for the strength to realize what is best for you, and every one involved.

I’ve made a printable gratitude journal page that is undated, so you can print out as many as you want.  Date it, write down what you’re thankful for, and read it back to yourself.  Even when life gets hard, staying positive and looking at what you have, instead of what you don’t have, keeps your spirits up.  At the end of this post, you can receive a FREE Gratitude Journal Printable, when you subscribe to my newsletter.

 



 

how to stay positiveAnd Then……….Have Yourself a Good Cry

And then there are those times, you just want to curl up in a ball on your bed and cry.  Cry for what was and what could have been.  Bawl your eyes out for thinking you were not good enough or smart enough.  Weep for the kids in the situation who are going to be devastated.  DO IT!!!

Let the river of tears flow, allow yourself to be sad be that brief moment….and then REMEMBER  The past is history and the future isn’t written yet.  Leave the past behind you.  Forgive yourself.  Forgive the people who have hurt you.  This too shall pass and 5 years from now, you’ll look back on this time in your life as a learning experience.  A place you WERE, not a place you ARE.  Believe things will get better, and they will, maybe not tomorrow or next week, but things will get better.  Be thankful for what you have.  Stay positive and believe all things happen for a reason.

 

Have you recently had a major life change?  How did you stay positive during a difficult time in your life?

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