Blogger Recognition Award

Blogger Recognition Award

 

I am so incredibly honored to have been recognized by these amazing bloggers.  These are women I respect immensely so it is even more exciting to have been nominated for the Blogger Recognition Award by them.   Having only been blogging for a short period of time and having much more to learn, but this shows that I’m doing something right LOL.

 

Here are the rules to the Blogger Recognition Award:

1.) Thank the blogger(s) who nominated you and add their links

2.)  Write a post to show off your fancy award

3.)  Share story of how your blog was started

4.)  Share 2 pieces of advice for new bloggers

5.)  Nominate other bloggers

6.)  Comment on their blog to let them know you nominated them

 

3 Lovely Ladies Nominated Me

 

So, 3 amazing lady bloggers nominated me (YAHHH)

Elizabeth from Betty’s Battleground

Alison from The Nut Factory

and

Heather from Heather LeGuilloux

 

My Blogging Story

 

Here’s my story (sad but true), I started this blog to get my feelings out about my sister ending her life.  To say my sister was my best friend would be an understatement, she was part of me, etched on my soul, as my other half.  Seriously, we were creepy, we could speak by telepathy….no not really LOL but we could make each other laugh, while not even saying a word.  It was like we read each others’ minds.

When my sister killed herself, it was like a piece of me died.  Thank God I had such a strong support system including my fiancée and my best friend or things could have turned out very differently for me.  Of course I had my family also, but they were suffering in their own personal hells, right along with me.

After a couple of months, I knew if I didn’t do something I would lose my mind slowly.  I turned to something my sister loved, holistic health.  I learned everything I could about essential oils, meditation, yoga but I really loved essential oils.  I started helping friends and family with their ailments and they would always call me an hour later and say “Holy shit, those snake oils really work!!!”  LOL

I’ve never considered myself much of a writer but one day I read a blog post by Lena Gott from What Mommy Does and I decided to learn more about blogging.  I took Lena’s blogging email course and after emailing her my story, and her saying definitely do it, I decided to start my blog.  The rest is history…… like Nicole Reed said, “Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us.”

 

My WHY

 

My “WHY” has evolved the last couple of months.  It seemed like every time I turned my computer on, there was another story about a young child killing themselves.   My goal now is to go to schools and ask for a formal suicide prevention program be put in place.  If I have to go to every school in the county, state, and country, that’s what I will do to try to stop this heartbreaking epidemic.  Also, I want to start empowering parents with the knowledge they need to help their kids who may be suffering.  Mental health has such a stigma around it.  If we can start this conversation, youth suicide could be preventable, but it takes every one to make that possible.  Schools, communities, parents, friends, the more we talk about it opening, the better it will get.

 

2 Tips for New Bloggers

 

Don’t give up!!!  When you start blogging, you think it’s just going to be writing until you purge the demons….well it’s not.  It takes a lot of hard work and dedication.

If you’re not tech savvy, you won’t be where you need to be in the beginning BUT play around on your site.  Figure out your theme, figure out how to make Pinterest pins in Canva.  Keep trying to do something anything, I still have no idea what I’m doing LOL

 

Blogger Recognition Award

 

My Nominations

 

My girl Kristie at theofficialceomom

Ashley at You me and PTSD

Maria at imommy.co

Azalea at disorderedliving

Kristin at fourprincessesandthecheese

Laura at bylauraiancu

Jen at womenwinningonline

 

So, there’s my nominations, it feels good to be nominated for something.  It really validates all your efforts.  A lot of other ladies have helped me along the way but I literally am drawing a blank.

 

Who is your favorite blogger????  Let me know in the comments

 

Have a great weekend

 

 

 

Remembering Women Who Lost Their Babies to Suicide

On this mother’s day weekend, we feel the love we so selflessly give every day.  Our kids bring home their homemade cards, with their little hand prints or flowers they drew for us.  We go to brunch and get pampered for our one day out of the year.  But some mothers won’t be receiving homemade cards or extra hugs because their child isn’t here anymore.  They lost their child to the epidemic that is spreading through this country and the world.  They lost their babies to suicide.  Today, I will be remembering women who lost their babies to suicide.

 

Remembering Women who has lost their babies to suicide
Take time today to remember the women who have lost their child to suicide

 

Cornelia Reynolds

Cornelia Reynolds, lost her 8 year old son, Gabriel to suicide in January of 2017.   In a surveillance video, released by his school, you can see Gabriel being assaulted and knocked unconscious.  This incident happened 2 days before his suicide.  Gabriel laid there for over 5 minutes, being kicked and poked by other boys, before any adult comes.

 

When help finally comes, instead of contacting an ambulance, the school nurse had Cornelia pick Gabriel up from school, telling her that he fainted.  Later that evening, Gabriel began vomiting, so he was taken to the hospital where they said he had stomach virus (neither Ms. Reynolds nor the ER doctor had any knowledge of what transpired in the bathroom that day.)

2 days later Gabriel hanged himself with a necktie in his home.  In a despicable act, the school takes no culpability, stating that they “didn’t know what happened in the bathroom.” ???  How is that possible?  GO watch the surveillance footage that I just watched and you’ll see what happened, Carson Elementary School and the Cincinnati School District are heinous human beings.  Period (but that’s a post for another day.)

Today, I would like to offer my sincere condolences to Cornelia for the loss of her only son.   My heart breaks for her

 

Remembering Women who have lost their babies to suicide
For some, this is a sad day. Please try to keep these women in your thoughts

 

Tricia Norman

Tricia Norman, lost her 12 year old daughter, Rebecca to suicide in 2013.  After enduring over a year of bullying and cyberbullying, Tricia pulled Rebecca out of her elementary school to home school her.  Rebecca had switched schools and Tricia believed her daughter was happy there.  She had no idea that the girls Rebecca had a problem with at her old school had taken to the Internet to torture her daughter.

 

Rebecca left for school on Monday morning but never got there.  Tricia reported Rebecca missing at 7 p.m., having never received a call from the automated system at the school telling her that Rebecca wasn’t there.  Deputies found Rebecca’s body at 2:25 a.m.

 

Tricia, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss and I will remember you on this mother’s day and every day.

 

Remembering women who have lost their babies to suicide

 

Katrina Goss

Katrina Goss lost her 11 year old son, Tysen to suicide, in April of 2017.  After returning home from school on March 14th, Tysen seemed happy and proud that he went to his tutoring that day without being reminded.  Katrina baked for him as a reward.  Tysen went to his room after dinner.

 

Goss went to say goodnight to Tysen around 10 p.m. and found his door locked.  She opened it with her key but didn’t see her son anywhere-she thought he was playing a trick on her.  Katrina found her son hanging in his closet.  She tried to pick him up while screaming for her older son to call 911.  Paramedics were able to revive Tysen but he succumbed to his injuries 3 weeks later.

Goss stated that evening Tysen was texting someone who was using someone else’s Snapchat account.  This person told Tysen his girlfriend had died.  No one told him it was a prank.  Katrina stated that her son died because of a “twisted, sick joke,” and I agree with her.

 

Katrina, I am so sorry for the loss of your son.  Please know I am thinking of you today and everyday.

 

Jane Clementi

 

Jane Clementi lost her 18 year old son, Tyler to suicide in 2010.  Tyler had been a victim of a disgusting invasion of privacy when his roommate at Rutgers University taped him during an intimate situation.  He then invited other students to view it.  Tyler found out about the incident and that his roommate was planning on doing it again.

Several days later, Tyler jumped off the George Washington Bridge.

Jane started the Tyler Clementi Foundation which was created to raise awareness and prevent bullying.  The Tyler Clementi Foundation is a non-profit organization working to end online and offline bullying, harassment, and humiliation.

Happy Mother’s Day Jane.  I am so very sorry for your loss

 

Remembering Women who Lost their babies to Suicide
Happy Mother’s Day

 

My Mommy

And last, but certainly the most important one to me, my Mom, Sue.  She lost her daughter, my sister, Jessie to suicide in 2015.  My sister was suffering from postpartum depression.  She was not monitored properly and ended her life in August of 2015.

Happy Mother’s Day Mommy.  I love you so much.  Thank you for being so strong and taking such good care of the girls and I.

 

To all the Moms out there, Happy Mother’s Day.  Hold your children a little tighter today as you remember the mother’s who have lost their babies to suicide.

 

Thank you for reading

 

 

 

 

Suicide Prevention-How I Went From Devastated to Driven Part 2

 

 

I have come up with my Part 2 to From Devastated to Driven Part 1.  Suicide prevention should be discussed in schools, period.  There are pros and cons to everything; medicines, books, movies, video games, standardized tests.  To take the stance, talking about suicide could lead to suicide, is not an answer anymore.  We have to weigh the benefits against the drawbacks of a prevention program.

 

To take the stance, talking about suicide could lead to suicide, is not an answer anymore. Click To Tweet

 

 

Why I Want Suicide Prevention Spoken About in School

My sister’s death has ignited something in me, a drive like I’ve never seen.   After reading numerous article on youth suicide, I’ve decided to act.  I’m currently in the research phase.

I really don’t know when my attention turned to the kids attempting and completely suicide.  It seemed like every time I opened my internet browser, a story about a child’s suicide came up.

The fact of the matter is kids’ young minds will soak up any information we’re giving them.  I know, you’re thinking, my kid doesn’t listen or remember anything but you’re wrong.  Kids know, realize, listen, and retain a lot more than we think.   I have big ideas on how to help kids retrain their brains, to believe in themselves, to love themselves, to forgive themselves for their perceived shortcomings or mistakes, they feel they’ve made.

 

 

Through my constant reading, I have been changed by the self help industry. I am going to write my own suicide prevention program with schools around America, and possibly the world

 

My Sister

My sister’s suicide in 2015 obviously rocked the foundation my life sits on.  Losing my best friend has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with.  I spent many days and nights in bed, hysterical, screaming “WHY.”  Almost 2 years later, I still do that on some days.

Other days, I thank her for changing my life.  She literally altered the framework of my life.  I’ve never been more ready for change-not only to change myself but to work to change so many who feel broken.

 

Evolution of Grief

You see, when you’re grieving, you don’t pay attention to anything.  You stay in your pajamas all day (which I usually do anyway), you cry so much you’re eyes won’t open, and then one day you get up.  You’re pissed and ready to throat punch someone, anyone, to take the pain away.  Then you realize, you can use that anger for something good and that’s what I’m going to do…….

 

Suicide Prevention

My New Plan

I’ve spoken to 10 different kids (ages 9-17), who go to ten different schools, and not 1 of those schools offer a formal suicide prevention program.  Or if they do, the student don’t know about them. I’ll have an extensive post about this coming up next week  As of now, I have a lot of work to do.  I’ve found numerous suicide prevention programs that I could potentially pitch to my school system.  To be honest, I don’t think any of them are promising.

 

 

 

I have found new enlightment from many sources. I wil accomplsh my dreams

 

…..But What I Really Want To Do

I really want to become a motivational speaker for kids, teaching them not only suicide prevention but motivation and self esteem exercises.  Sounds crazy, right?

I don’t think so.

I want to be the Gabby Bernstein of the 7th grade.  Or the Tony Robbins of the 12th grade.  I have so many ideas spinning around my head.  I want to write and create my OWN suicide prevention program!!!

Sounds nuts, but even a blind squirrel finds a nut every now and again.

I sincerely believe I can accomplish this goal.  I believe in my heart that I can change the way these kids feel about themselves.

 

 

 

My sister's suicide changed my life. I now want nothing more than to promote suicide prevention programs in schools

Life Coaching

I want to pursue a career in life coaching.  I know many of the kids I talked with, feel uncomfortable talking to their parents about certain issues.  In some cases, the parents are the problem, in the children’s opinion.

I want to help these families.  I want to be the voice on the other end of the line, that kids feel comfortable talking to.

Then I want to speak to kids about self-esteem, confidence, changing their mindset, realizing their dreams.

I want to help kids know their worth, know they are original and so very relevant to this life.

 

Write a Book

Also, I want to write a book.  THE BOOK on how to prevent suicide in children.

THE BOOK parents turn to when in need.  Sort of like Dr. Spock’s book back in the day.

I’ve never considered myself a writer.  I was always a math girl (still am) but something has shifted in me.  It’s like my soul flows through my fingers when I write.

 

I Don’t Know How Yet…..

 

Be the change you want to see in this world.  All I do, all day, is think about that quote.  Something has to be done, we have to say “NO MORE.”  We need to do something about the epidemic that has become youth suicide.

I don’t know how I’m going to accomplish all this stuff but I know I will.  As Marie Forleo says, “Everything is Figure Outtable!!!”

 

I Need Your Help

 

Now I have some questions for you, my loyal readers.  Does your child’s school have a formal suicide prevention program….not one they created after a tragedy happened-one that has been in place and being spoke about?  If so, can you tell me a little about it.

Also, can you please share this post, so other parents could tell me about any other programs they know about.  Thank you so much.